Tag Archives: Goals

Perfection.

14 May

Facebook is not the place to go when you’re feeling sad. In moments of self-doubt, the social network could be your worst enemy. Right in front of your eyes, everyone else’s perfect worlds are on display.

 

They just got engaged. You have no boyfriend, bae, or boo in sight.

He’s traveling the world. You might not even have a passport.

Her job is amazing and fun. You sit in a cubicle for 8 hours a day bored to death.

She takes the best, sunlight filtered selfies. Your last pic update got only 9 likes.

 

Their lives are perfect, and it shows in every post, picture, tweet, snap, and update.

 

You’ve just got to remember: perfection doesn’t exist.

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Why #Goals Are Important. 🍋

23 Apr

Shortly after watching Beyonce’s new visual album, Lemonade, I checked social media for the reactions. The reactions were wide and varied. There were jokes about Jay-Z. There was appreciation for the many Black women in Beyonce’s squad. And of course most of the reactions were to the lyrics, mainly the ones about Queen Bey and Jay’s marriage. But, this post from my Facebook friend stood out to me.

 

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Sooooo, are Beyonce and Jay-Z still ya’ll #RelationshipGoals ?

 

Of course, most of the people who commented on this status answered with a resounding NO. The commenters reasoning made sense: You could see from Lemonade that Jay & Bey’s relationship wasn’t perfect. But what relationship is perfect? [Hint: none.] Just because someone’s relationship isn’t perfect doesn’t mean you can’t learn lessons from it.

Jay-Z and Beyonce’s marriage isn’t the picture of perfection, but they are two intelligent, hard working, powerful individuals. They’re both at the top of their game – winning many awards and accolades. They’ve set and broken records. They share a daughter that they love. They help out various communities. These are all things I’d love to do with the man I’m meant to marry. The Carter’s accomplishments aren’t an excuse for infidelity. I’m simply saying that making someone your #RelationshipGoals doesn’t mean you want your relationship to be exactly like theirs.

Setting #Goals for your life is important. And, there’s nothing wrong with finding people (“real” or celebrities) to serve as inspiration to help you reach your goals. All you need to do is highlight their successes to guide you in creating your own plan of action.

Because at the end of the day, no one is perfect. No one’s relationship is perfect. No one’s family is perfect. No one’s career path is perfect. No one’s life is perfect. But that shouldn’t stop you from admiring others, and using the good things about them to create a life that’s perfect for you. 🙂

Goal – See The States

7 Jan

I have a goal to see all 50 states. It’s important to me to see different parts of the US. Below is a list of all 50 States, and a note about if/where I’ve been in the state. I’ve got 31 more to see. Maybe I can scratch one or two off my list in 2016.

Alabama

Alaska

*Arizona – I’ve never really visited Arizona, but when I was in Nevada, I did touch the Arizona border.

Arkansas

California – My bestie lives in San Diego, which I’ve now visited twice. Still no LA.

Colorado

Connecticut

Delaware – No taxes!

Florida – I’ve been here a few times. Disney and Miami. The 1st time I ever flew was to Florida.

Georgia – Savannah, ATL.

Hawaii

Idaho

Illinois – Chicago once with my family

Indiana

Iowa

Kansas

Kentucky – When I was in Ohio, I asked some locals what they did for fun, and I was pointed to Kentucky.

Louisiana – New Orleans is my favorite city.

Maine

Maryland – 25 years of life.

Massachusetts

Michigan

Minnesota

Mississippi

Missouri

Montana

Nebraska

Nevada – I spent my 21st birthday in Las Vegas. I also visited another city to see the Hoover Damn and went to a restaurant that was on Diners, Drive-Ins, and Dives.

New Hampshire

New Jersey – Garden City Mall, I think.

New Mexico

New York – Seeing a play on Broadway has become an annual trip with my mom. One spring break in college was spent here as well. I love the Brooklyn Museum. I also have family in Niagara Falls, NY. I’m sure I’ve been to other cities.

North Carolina – I’ve been here a few times. Contemplated going to NCAT, so I visited during my senior year of High School.

North Dakota

Ohio – Cincinnati, had some great chili at Skyline Chili. Everything seemed to close early.

Oklahoma

Oregon

Pennsylvania – I have family that lives in Pittsburgh. I also visited Drexel University with someone who was thinking about going there.

Rhode Island

South Carolina – I spent a birthday in North Myrtle Beach. I’ve also been to Hilton Head.

South Dakota

Tennessee – Had a great time at the Opryland Gaylord in Nashville! Good food is here.

Texas

Utah

Vermont

Virginia – Aside from Maryland, the only other state I’ve lived in. College years. Also, I live in the DMV, so to find myself in Northern VA isn’t hard to do.

Washington

West Virginia – I drove to a casino in West VA to see Dru Hill perform. They can still saaanngggg. lol

Wisconsin

Wyoming

2016!

1 Jan

Screen Shot 2016-01-06 at 7.09.56 PMI won’t exactly call the following “resolutions.” Some of these things I’ve already been doing, and I just want to continue and improve in the coming year. And while some of these are new, I’m taking a new approach to how I go about reaching my goals. Therefore, I’ll call these “Areas of Focus.” Here goes:

  1. Focus on going back to school – For me this is important in developing myself as a career focused woman. I’ve decided to get my MBA (possibly with a focus in marketing.) The reason for an MBA, is that business is important in any career path I may choose, and I think having the knowledge that comes with an MBA will be super important as I grow in my career.
    • Study for and take the GRE
    • Find suitable programs
    • Develop a personal statement
    • Apply for schools
  2. Focus on helping your community – This is important for obvious reasons. I want to make an impact on others, especially others who may not have the resources to help themselves. For me, it’ll be important to use my skill set and interests to help out. So, maybe manual labor won’t be my thing, but fundraising, and organizing are definitely up my alley.
  3. Focus on becoming more interesting – I often feel like I should be doing more, but what is that exactly. In 2016, I plan to find out, by:
    • Getting into wedding planning. This is something I’ve always been interested in, and now I just need focus on doing it.
    • Writing more. (Hence this post and the ones to come.) I’ll be using my website a lot more in 2016!
    • Travel more. My goal to see all 50 states isn’t complete, so maybe I can scratch off another state this year.
  4. Focus on creating a healthy lifestyle – I won’t make this a typical resolution by saying “lose X amount of pounds,” but it’s critical that I become more healthy.
    • Cook more. When it comes to being healthy, cooking and eating in your house beats eating out like 99% of the time. (Made up fact. lol)
    • Create a food routine. It’s not a cheat day if I do it all the time. Packing my breakfasts and lunches and only eating out once a week is the goal for me.
    • Be active. Obviously this is an important part of a healthy lifestyle. I have a gym membership that could get used a whole lot more. Walking and getting fresh air is also good for your body.
  5. Focus of being more fiscally responsible – I’ve got #HouseGoals (March 2017). So, I’m saving for a down payment. But, I know that buying a house is more than just having a down payment. I need to have emergency funds saved, as well as money for furniture, and bills. Ideally, I’d like to have my auto loan and credit card bills all down to $0 before buying a house, so that’s also a big 2016 focus for me. Learning to tell myself no is also a part of my focus on finances. Being fiscally responsible and constant impulse buys just don’t work together.