Real Date

25 Jan

Quick Rant:

What is so difficult about taking a girl on a real date? Going to a guy’s house, drinking and watching TV is not (!) a real date. I don’t think it’s too much to ask to be taken out, and so, I won’t accept a Netflix and Chill.  I assume that if your first date is Netflix and Chill, the most you’ll get from this person is a situationship. Again, not what I want.

To be honest, I’d much rather Netflix and Chill by myself. I’d rather be in my pajamas, in my own bed, watching Bernie Mac Show reruns.

Remember, there’s a solution for most problems. So, if money is tight, just know a simple google search will lend you ideas for several cheap and free dates. And, these dates don’t require sitting on your bed or couch watching Grey’s Anatomy.

And, last point, a lot of you don’t even pay for your own Netflix. You have a password from your mother, cousin, or friend, or somebody.

Rant over.

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Goal – See The States

7 Jan

I have a goal to see all 50 states. It’s important to me to see different parts of the US. Below is a list of all 50 States, and a note about if/where I’ve been in the state. I’ve got 31 more to see. Maybe I can scratch one or two off my list in 2016.

Alabama

Alaska

*Arizona – I’ve never really visited Arizona, but when I was in Nevada, I did touch the Arizona border.

Arkansas

California – My bestie lives in San Diego, which I’ve now visited twice. Still no LA.

Colorado

Connecticut

Delaware – No taxes!

Florida – I’ve been here a few times. Disney and Miami. The 1st time I ever flew was to Florida.

Georgia – Savannah, ATL.

Hawaii

Idaho

Illinois – Chicago once with my family

Indiana

Iowa

Kansas

Kentucky – When I was in Ohio, I asked some locals what they did for fun, and I was pointed to Kentucky.

Louisiana – New Orleans is my favorite city.

Maine

Maryland – 25 years of life.

Massachusetts

Michigan

Minnesota

Mississippi

Missouri

Montana

Nebraska

Nevada – I spent my 21st birthday in Las Vegas. I also visited another city to see the Hoover Damn and went to a restaurant that was on Diners, Drive-Ins, and Dives.

New Hampshire

New Jersey – Garden City Mall, I think.

New Mexico

New York – Seeing a play on Broadway has become an annual trip with my mom. One spring break in college was spent here as well. I love the Brooklyn Museum. I also have family in Niagara Falls, NY. I’m sure I’ve been to other cities.

North Carolina – I’ve been here a few times. Contemplated going to NCAT, so I visited during my senior year of High School.

North Dakota

Ohio – Cincinnati, had some great chili at Skyline Chili. Everything seemed to close early.

Oklahoma

Oregon

Pennsylvania – I have family that lives in Pittsburgh. I also visited Drexel University with someone who was thinking about going there.

Rhode Island

South Carolina – I spent a birthday in North Myrtle Beach. I’ve also been to Hilton Head.

South Dakota

Tennessee – Had a great time at the Opryland Gaylord in Nashville! Good food is here.

Texas

Utah

Vermont

Virginia – Aside from Maryland, the only other state I’ve lived in. College years. Also, I live in the DMV, so to find myself in Northern VA isn’t hard to do.

Washington

West Virginia – I drove to a casino in West VA to see Dru Hill perform. They can still saaanngggg. lol

Wisconsin

Wyoming

2016!

1 Jan

Screen Shot 2016-01-06 at 7.09.56 PMI won’t exactly call the following “resolutions.” Some of these things I’ve already been doing, and I just want to continue and improve in the coming year. And while some of these are new, I’m taking a new approach to how I go about reaching my goals. Therefore, I’ll call these “Areas of Focus.” Here goes:

  1. Focus on going back to school – For me this is important in developing myself as a career focused woman. I’ve decided to get my MBA (possibly with a focus in marketing.) The reason for an MBA, is that business is important in any career path I may choose, and I think having the knowledge that comes with an MBA will be super important as I grow in my career.
    • Study for and take the GRE
    • Find suitable programs
    • Develop a personal statement
    • Apply for schools
  2. Focus on helping your community – This is important for obvious reasons. I want to make an impact on others, especially others who may not have the resources to help themselves. For me, it’ll be important to use my skill set and interests to help out. So, maybe manual labor won’t be my thing, but fundraising, and organizing are definitely up my alley.
  3. Focus on becoming more interesting – I often feel like I should be doing more, but what is that exactly. In 2016, I plan to find out, by:
    • Getting into wedding planning. This is something I’ve always been interested in, and now I just need focus on doing it.
    • Writing more. (Hence this post and the ones to come.) I’ll be using my website a lot more in 2016!
    • Travel more. My goal to see all 50 states isn’t complete, so maybe I can scratch off another state this year.
  4. Focus on creating a healthy lifestyle – I won’t make this a typical resolution by saying “lose X amount of pounds,” but it’s critical that I become more healthy.
    • Cook more. When it comes to being healthy, cooking and eating in your house beats eating out like 99% of the time. (Made up fact. lol)
    • Create a food routine. It’s not a cheat day if I do it all the time. Packing my breakfasts and lunches and only eating out once a week is the goal for me.
    • Be active. Obviously this is an important part of a healthy lifestyle. I have a gym membership that could get used a whole lot more. Walking and getting fresh air is also good for your body.
  5. Focus of being more fiscally responsible – I’ve got #HouseGoals (March 2017). So, I’m saving for a down payment. But, I know that buying a house is more than just having a down payment. I need to have emergency funds saved, as well as money for furniture, and bills. Ideally, I’d like to have my auto loan and credit card bills all down to $0 before buying a house, so that’s also a big 2016 focus for me. Learning to tell myself no is also a part of my focus on finances. Being fiscally responsible and constant impulse buys just don’t work together.

Homecoming!

29 Oct

I’m not sure why I believed everything would be different. After all, not even six months had passed since graduation. Still, I was nervous to be going back. But when I arrived on Hampton’s campus, I quickly realized everything was the same. The buildings, the crowded student center, the steam rising from the ground, were exactly the way I remembered. Some of the faces were different, (a new class of freshmen had started their Hamptonization process) but I was glad to be back at my Home by the Sea. Homecoming weekend was spent having fun with my close Hampton friends, and quickly catching up with my former classmates.

The thing I found is that I wasn’t the only one missing Hampton. More people than I can count were just like me: living at home, bored, and working somewhere only slightly related to what they really want to do in life. Some people were still searching for jobs, while others were contemplating going back to school. This made me feel better, because I know that a big part of my nervousness was coming from the idea that I’d be the only person in this position. In my mind, all of my classmates would have fancy titles and jobs with Fortune 500 companies.

The weekend was fun, but more importantly, I learned something. I learned that, despite what my imagination tells me, I’m not behind. I’m not the only one who doesn’t have a flawless plan. 🙂

Day 2 and 3

6 Oct

Day 2

It was only day 2 of The Fat Smash Diet, and already my will was being tested. A friend of mine was having a birthday dinner. I planned to avoid restaurants during my 9 day detox, but I couldn’t ask her to postpone her birthday celebration for me.  She wanted to have her b-day dinner at The Cheesecake Factory.  I love TCF, and I love ending my dinner with a big slice of cheesecake. But, on this particular visit, I couldn’t do that. 

I thought about postponing Phase 1 of the Fat Smash Diet until after her birthday dinner, but I figured if I keep waiting until I have a “good 9 days,” I would never have a time to do it. 

So anyway, I went to The Cheesecake Factory, and I actually had a good time. Not too many of the people there ordered dessert, so it wasn’t like I was sitting lonely watching them all eat the food.  However, if it wasn’t a friend’s birthday, I would have made the decision to stay home. 

 

Day 3

I had another good workout at the pool today, but I’m thinking about changing it up very soon. I’m tired of washing my hair lol. But anyway, I went back to the store to get some more veggie burgers and stuff to make a huge salad. This time, my salad included nuts, mandarin orange slices, mushrooms, and low fat Caesar dressing.

Having my mom doing the diet with me is the best part. I think if I was in my house doing the detox alone, I would have already given in. My sister had grilled cheese and ice cream for dinner last night.  Ice cream is my favorite dessert, so I tried to “simulate” ice cream by having yogurt and strawberries.  Yummy lol. 

Overall, I think I’m doing great so far.  This detox is not nearly as bad as I thought (even though I’m SO ready to get to Phase II). I have 3 days in my pocket. I haven’t weighed myself yet, but I just feel like the results are going to be great

Fat Smash Diet

4 Oct

Since February, I’ve been trying to do it “own my own,” by counting calories or trying new exercises. The problem with this is that nothing I’ve done has been consistent. I’ll get to doing something for a couple of days and then fall off the wagon. I have lost and gained the same 4 pounds over and over again.

Two days ago, I decided that I’d put off my diet long enough. I was going to do something that had structure. With my mother as my weight loss partner, I began to plan Dr. Ian Smith’s Fat Smash Diet.  The first phase of the diet is a detox that includes mostly fruits, veggies, and some whole grains. I studied the first two chapters of the book and made a grocery list and detailed menu to last the 9 days of the detox. Even though I’ve had many fails in the past, I have realized that planning works.  Over the next 9 days I plan to write about what I’m doing and my end results.

Day 1

Plain oatmeal is nasty. I really can’t think of any other word to say. I added cinnamon and nutmeg, but that made it just ok. I also downed a half glass of soy milk, which was another unpleasant experience to me. My favorite part of breakfast was an apple. For my first snack, I had carrots and a fat free granola bar. This was a satisfying and I found that I wasn’t starving by lunch time.

Lunch and dinner went much better than breakfast.

For lunch, I had a salad with grapes and cashews. I forgot to get low fat dressing at the store, so I squeezed fresh lemon juice over my salad. The salty cashews, sweet grapes, and tart lemon juice made a delicious combination. While I don’t have this salad planned in my menu again for the next 9 days, I do plan to make it again. It was yummy. I also had a veggie burger and an orange. This was a great meal.

The fat smash diet also includes exercise, so after 45 minutes of swimming with my mom, I came home to make us dinner. I decided on a stir “fry.” I boiled some rice, and steamed broccoli, string beans, and green peppers. Then I mixed everything together with a bit of teriyaki sauce. This was also a tasty meal.

Overall, I think today was a great day. I’ll have to work on finding a tasty replacement to the oatmeal.

One day down, eight to go.

My Problem With Web Series

15 Aug

There’s a reason television shows come on weekly. When an audience falls in love with (or loves to hate) a character, that audience wants to know what’s going to happen next. In general, people are impatient and have short attention spans. And, even when you do love a character, most people don’t want to wait a month (or more) for another 7 minute episode to come out. 

Now, I understand the simple problem that many internet sensations have. Money! Producing a quality series costs money. If you don’t have a big production company, or a network behind you, the money is going to come slowly.  Thus, crowd funding is used. Some producers of the web series depend on audiences to donate money to aid in the continuation of the product.

 

While KickStarter, and the like, are great resources, they have to be used constructively. From a potential “investor,” these are my suggestions: 

  1. You can’t expect people to donate their hard earned money after seeing just one episode of a show. You need to first start with your own money, and the support of your family and friends. If you can’t gather enough support from the people who already know you, how do you think you’ll get it from strangers?
  2. Consistency is key!  If you can only afford to produce one episode a month, be honest with yourself. Maybe, you should produce your entire first season, taking your time, and then release the episodes one by one. But please don’t release the first 3 episodes in a weeks time, and then make your audience wait forever for the next one. Also, I don’t want to play guessing games about when the next episode is arriving. If you claim Thursdays at 6 as your release time, then stick with it. 
  3. Be original. This seems obvious enough. But, I’ve seen one or two series that immediately remind me of The Office. Why would I watch your show when I can see the real Pam, Jim, and Dwight on my television?
  4. Interact with your audience. A great benefit of a web series, as opposed to a television series, is that you have direct access to your fans. If I have a feeling of friendship, a connection to the people behind the show, I’ll be more likely to part with my money. 

My opinions aren’t to help create a web series, I’ve never done that and don’t know how. But I do know when I’m compelled to tune-in and more importantly, support financially. 

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The Return of ABG

15 Jun

Awkward Black Girl is back.

It’s been almost 5 months since the season 1 finale of Awkward Black Girl. During the show’s off-time, a few new people were added to the cast. But, more importantly,  Issa Rae and Pharrell partnered up to bring ABG to Pharrell’s “I Am Other,” youtube channel. This partnership will catapult ABG into a larger group of  viewers. The momentum that the show is getting will hopefully bring the show to television, or maybe a longer format online.

The first episode of the season was good, not great. But, I’m thinking that through the season, it will get better. The raps that Issa Rae does are hilarious. I’m ready for the ABG mix tape!

I’m ready for next week’s episode.

2 weeks….

30 Apr

The last couple of months have been tear-filled, and accompanied by a feeling of worthlessness. But, I learned in church today, that the point I’m in a test of my faith. Because I’m a minor-control freak, God knows how I feel about not having a solid plan, but He wouldn’t allow this to happen to me if He wasn’t sure I could handle it. What I heard today was something I really needed. It was also a reminder that I need to stop worrying so much…especially about things that I have no control over. I’ve been sitting around wondering what I could’ve done different to ensure that I’d have a job upon graduation. But I don’t have a time machine, and wondering isn’t going to get me anywhere.

The only thing I can do is think about the wonderful times I’ve had here at HU. My semesters spent here at Hampton have been amazing. I’ve met great friends, learned some subject matter, but I’ve learned even more about myself. This time has been priceless.

I just hope that the words I wrote can manifest themselves into my spirit. I’m tired of crying about my looming unemployment and the idea of living with my mother. I need to have the confidence in myself, but more importantly, the confidence in God, that He will always do what’s best for me.

Diamond Shine Top Coat

3 Apr

Seriously, this has to be thee BEST product that I have ever purchased for my nails. Being the thrifty shopper that I am (lol) I bought this top coat when it was oPerfectionn sale at Target. It was the cheapest top coat I saw, so I grabbed it. A day or so later, I polished my nails hot pink, and used the Diamond Shine as a base and top! Four days later, my nails hadn’t chipped at all. Now, I thought it was luck, but not after three more tries.

I don’t think I’ll ever go back to using another type of  top coat. Time and time again, I’ve been promised extended wear of my nail polish with the use of Top Coat X! I’ve never actually had a polish live up to its claims. I’ve even been dissapointed by other Sally Hansen products. I’m so glad I found this! I think you should tryyyyy!!!